I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard, “I hate this food!” or “My boyfriend broke up with me! My world is ending!” or “I’m STARVING!”
We don’t even think about what we’re saying. Complaining comes so naturally in our culture, we don’t even REALIZE what we’re saying.
But seriously, people. We live in an amazing country, if you’re reading this you have access to a computer and the internet, we’re alive, most of us have friends and family and money.
But your life is TERRIBLE if you’re the tiniest bit cold, or if you’re slightly overweight, or if, god forbid, your girlfriend or boyfriend of five months broke it off.
I was depressed for a year+. Most of it, I can tell you now, was a relentless pity party because my friends didn’t like me enough or I didn’t get straight A’s.
Now, the initial cause of the depression was legit. I was terrified I was going to seriously hurt someone physically (it was an OCD thing).
But it turned into, “Oh my gosh, he called me ugly, I’m gonna cut myself and then he’ll be sorry.”
After causing my parents no end of grief, and costing them almost no end of money, I finally snapped out of it. Maybe it was the meds, idk.
But the moral of the story is, I got sucked into the American belief of entitlement. Everyone else should make me happy. I deserve this dress. I deserve those shoes. I NEED a new phone.
Now that I think about it, it’s INSANE. I had everything I needed, and almost everything for which I had even a passing desire, but no. I didn’t have enough friends. I didn’t have a boyfriend. I wanted THIS person to go out with me. No, not THAT one. That one isn’t good enough for me.
Why do we feel like this? Maybe it’s the media, telling us we can’t be happy without a relationship and expensive shoes and better food. Maybe it’s just a human tendency to want more, more, more.
Now, I’m not talking about being upset that your father is a soldier, or your grandmother has cancer, or your mother died. That’s not complaining. That’s a legitimate emotion.
But the idea that we have a terrible life, or that we deserve better, or that it’s another person’s (or a god’s, or the government’s, or the world’s) responsibility to make YOU happy – those are ridiculous concepts.